Hello. Thank you for taking the time to visit. I appreciate comments and feedback, and more than that, conversations with you. This journal charts my journey back to self – self-awareness, self-compassion, self-love, and may detail the gory details of suffering, pain and bitterness. I am grateful for this present moment that you are here with me, within my life. Talk to me – pick up the phone, write an email, or just leave a comment.
Learning to accept has been one of the greatest lessons I’ve learnt on my journey. Learning to accept that I suck, that I am not perfect, that I have goodness in me, that I have goodness around me – has been the biggest prize on my journey.
You see, I have both chronic depression and Aspergers’ Syndrome. I dislike communication and interaction. I hide at home and try not to go out. Behind a screen, I am safe. Before you, I am vulnerable.
My first attempt on my life was on 5 May 1995. I was 13 going 14. My last attempt on my life was probably within the past 72 hours. But I have learnt to accept that this is the way I am, and to stop punishing myself for being the way I am.
Just like the Serenity Prayer – Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
I am a builder. I like building things. I like doing things. I enjoy routines. I am an engineer. I am a banker. In the life I have lived, building organizations, projects, systems, and people starts from the bones and the structure. Then you fill in vital organs, and networks and links that allow for communication and synergy and functionality to be optimized, before you design a skin that reflects all that you have built.
But rebuilding is a whole different business. When a business is existing, when a project has gone awry, when people behave badly, rebuilding starts with intent to destroy all that currently is.
Rebuilding one’s life starts with taking apart beliefs, making changes to our behaviours, and doing things that rock us at our cores – one step at a time. In 2002, Sir Dave Brailsford became the head of the British Cycling team – a team that had only once in 76 years won a gold medal. By 2008, his team had won seven out of ten available gold medals in track cycling at the Beijing Olympics.
How he did it was not as simple as it sounds – he decided to improve everything that goes into competing on a bike by just 1%, and he surmised that the aggregate of those many 1% improvements would lead to a significant change overall. His medal haul proved him right.
So here’s to that 1% – to do better by 1%, to live better by 1%, to sleep better by 1%, to eat better by 1%. Let’s see how it all adds up!
I listen to music frequently now that I work in an office and I need to zone out the noises around me. From time to time I hear a song that reminds me of the past, including but not limited to my wedding event, falling in love with someone a long time ago, sad emotions …
Life is slowly getting back to where it was before. I’m hopeful for the progress that Ann and I are making within the past two weeks. We’re on the road to mental, physical and financial stability. Once we get our life sorted, I’m pretty sure we will thrive. I’m excited that Ann is coming to …
Ann had therapy and today she posted a picture of her committed action worksheet. I thought it may be a good thing for me to do the same – to commit to actions that strengthen what is important to me in my life. So here goes… A component of my life that I value is …
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